Why do we change?

When do we actually change? I have come across many people in my life who changed for better and worst.  Few years back,I was quite a judgemental person. I used to judge people a lot. I will not lie but I have hurt many people too. I have even been hurt by them also.
When I reached rock bottom in my life, I came to know that ,not everything is as we see.People are different and so are their perspectives. People change when something big happens in their life - be it bad or good. A simple word or a talk can impact someone's life to a great extent. 

Every person has deep secrets within them. Some like to share and some like to hide. We hurt them very badly by being judgemental. As they say never judge a book by its cover, I would say never judge a person because of his smile. Its the one who smiles a lot who hides a lot. 

I used to be so blunt that there were times when I told people about how they changed. I didn't even like it when someone changed. But now I know why people change! 
Its because they learn great lessons from life.
Its because they have been hurt by someone whom they trusted the most.
Its because they have started to know their worth.
Its because they learned to maintain boundaries. 
Its because they have been misunderstood.
Its because their sanity is being put to stake.

So,the next time when you judge someone because of their change, think about their circumstances. Try to put yourself in their shoes for at least a second and think! Why did they change?


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