Healing After a Trauma

Healing after a trauma is never easy. The abuser might have broke your confidence, your self respect and your happiness. You might feel like dark clouds have surrounded your life. You might think that these clouds will never subside. Your brain seems to be fogged by all those blames, insults and words.

I won't say healing is easy. Its never easy. To heal, one has to accept the pain. But what most of us do is we don't accept our pain. We live with guilt , remorse and regret. These things will never allow us to move on. They are like a string which holds the kite. The kite moves only when the string is controlled. You have to cut off that string and learn to fly. Learn from your experiences. Never blame yourself for someone's mental condition. If an abuser keeps mentally torturing , then its definitely not your mistake. It shows his true colors. They will try their best to manipulate and blame you for no fault of yours. You will be like caught inside a web of lies. But as soon as you learn how to fly in the sky, it will be easy to get out of the web.

If you heal only then you will be able to live your life peacefully. Don't  keep drooling in the past. Don't keep any space for 'ifs' and 'buts' in your life. For your mental well being, stop expecting and start accepting the reality.  Detach completely from them, from their tricks and their fake emotions. It may not be as easy but definitely not impossible.  

Let's be kind enough to at least understand each others pain. Let's not push them away for what they are going through. Let's give them our shoulders to cry and our hands to hold. Let's heal them when their sky seems dark. Let us be the reason for bringing rainbow into their dark life.