Dear elder daughter,

I know you are tired! 
Tired of hiding your pain.
Tired of being strong.
Tired of meeting everyone's expectations.
Tired of fighting with your brain and heart.
Tired of being alone even with people around you.
I don't know why but every elder daughter's life is full of thorns. Sometimes because of her own decisions and mostly because of her parent's decision. She always obeys everyone because that's how she is trained. To not complain and always give happiness! Even if it means to supress her emotions. 
I know how it feels to fail in love. I know how scared you are to fall in love again. I know how your dreams are shattered under societal pressure.
I know sometimes you get angry and frustrated.  You might get these questions in your mind -Why do they even allow us to fly when at the end our wings will be cut off? Why are we asked to compromise even if isn't our fault? Why can't they just stand for what's right irrespective of the gender? Why are we even given birth to when at last we will start questioning our identity and fate? You can never find answers to these questions. The world might have modernised but some people and their thinking is still old and cheap.
If you aren't married, you are a burden to your family. If you are married, you are burden to your inlaws. Then who are we exactly? Who is a elder daughter? A burden!!!! I know you will be made to feel like a burden in every step of your life. No matter how independent you are, you will be chained to marriage. No matter how ambitious you are, you will have to sacrifice your dreams for your children. No matter how important your dreams are, you will be pushed to take up responsibilities alone. 
Every elder daughter is the most misunderstood person in every family. Do you know why? Because she puts up a brave face and cries under the pillow alone! She doesn't want anyone to hear her voice and break her so called strength which keeps her going in her difficult life. She knows that no one will hear her story so she keeps everything with her. And in this process, she loses her most precious time of her life! Compromise but don't ever  complain has killed many elder daughters. They are just living but with dead dreams.
Dear, just promise yourself that you won't let your elder daughter suffer like you did! That's the best thing you can do now! 


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