Emotional Abuse


'Emotional abuse is as harmful as physical abuse."

I never knew that someday I would be writing on this topic. But, Allah's plans are different. 
I have seen many people ,specially woman going through emotional abuse. They keep quiet and suffer. They keep such an abusive relationship going. 

Why do they do that? The answer is They are scared!
They are scared of being judged.
They are scared of being alone.
They are scared because their parents would not be allowed to live a normal life.
They are scared because their siblings would suffer.
They are scared because they wouldn't be accepted in this society.
They are scared because their children will be labelled with names.

But the truth is if you are quiet when being abused, you are not going to gain anything. You are just giving them the chance to step over you and by losing your self worth. While the abuser keeps enjoying his life. He doesn't lose a penny. 

At some point of my life, I was taunted for everything I did. I was quiet like every other girl. They had problem with the way I ate, talked, wore and what not. But I was quiet! Why? Because I wanted to be in their good books no matter what! I wanted to impress them even if it depressed me!

But as years passed on, it increased day by day. I realised that it wasn't going to end. They will never be happy no matter whatever I did. I was frustrated. I was depressed and lost confidence in myself. 

One fine day, I answered them back. I gave them the taste of their own medicine. What a wonder! They kept quiet this time. They didn't even dare to speak against me after that. So, an abuser does his job only till you are quiet and bearing it. When you stand up for yourself, he will be weak. 

Hope this was helpful to someone. I have dusted myself and got up. If any of you are facing an emotional or physical abuse, don't be quiet. PLEASE!!! You are initiating a chain which will continue forever. Break it today and you are going to save a whole generation from suffering. 




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