Ms. Typewriter

I know you are tired!  Tired of hiding your pain. Tired of being strong. Tired of meeting everyone's expectations. Tired of fighting with your brain and heart. Tired of being alone even with people around you. I don't know why but every elder daughter's life is full of thorns. Sometimes because of her own decisions and mostly because of her parent's decision. She always obeys everyone because that's how she is trained. To not complain and always give happiness! Even if it means to supress her emotions.  I know how it feels to fail in love. I know how scared you are to fall in love again. I know how your dreams are shattered under societal pressure. I know sometimes you get angry and frustrated.  You might get these questions in your mind -Why do they even allow us to fly when at the end our wings will be cut off? Why are we asked to compromise even if isn't our fault? Why can't they just stand for what's right irrespective of the gender? Why ...

"One day you will leave this house and it will be all mine." - Jay teased his elder sister. "That one day is never going to come."- Sheetal pouted angrily. Sura smiled looking at them. It brought back those memories when she used to say the same -" I am not going anywhere. This is my house too." She used to tell her mother. Her mother would say holding back her tears -" Every girl has to leave her house one day. The day she gets married she will never have a house. Sura would often think that her mother was being old fashioned, but she never knew even after being educated , she will also have to face the same situation. Sura was married to Raj immediately after she completed her graduation. His was a joint family and she grew up in a nuclear family. It wasn't easy for her to adjust there. She had to make lot of compromises. She would often complain about it to her mother. But her mother would just smile and say -" Everything will ...

I always grew up seeing him working hard to keep us happy. Every single wish of me was fulfilled by him happily. It took me years to recognise that behind every wish of mine there was unfulfilled wish of his. I wanted you to be proud of us.  You never treated us like we were your weakness. You always taught us that girls need to be strong and stand up for themselves if its wrong. No one could have treated us better than you did! Behind every degree of mine is your sweat which I am grateful for my entire life. Even if I work for lifetime , I may not be able to repay for the things which you have done for us. People tried to break you by always saying -" Oh! You don't have a son! Who will stand by you at old age?" But you always answered them bravely -" I don't need a son when I have daughters!" I never saw you crying. But on the day of my wedding you cried harder. It broke me to see you like that. Did you fall weak? Or was it because of the fear t...

Disclaimer before you read:  These are purely my thoughts and its not necessary that you agree with me too. :)  I am elder daughter to my parents and I will not lie, I have enjoyed being it. They have given me more love and care. Apart from that there are many disadvantages of being an elder child. Let's look into that:  1) You will have to sacrifice your dreams and desires according to your parents wish , be it career or your life. I always wanted to be a doctor. When the time came I had to change my plan, not because my parents forced me, but I knew they couldn't afford it. I knew my dad would have to work more if I opted for medical sciences which I didn't want. 2) You will be pressurized by friends and family to get married early since you are the road block for your siblings. People made my life living hell. Whenever I had to attend a function they bombarded me with like a thousand questions which I didn't want to answer. 3) You will have to think thous...

As you turn one, I would like to give you some pieces of advice. I know you are too small to understand or even read this. But someday, when you grow up, I want to show you this and make sure you become a strong individual and live your life to fullest. Always remember, you will always be judged for how you are. Don't ever change yourself to please someone and keep any relationship going. If someone loves you truly, they will stay no matter how you are. It's OK to make mistakes. Don't stress over it. You grow from your mistakes. You learn from your mistakes. You become wise from your mistakes. Learn, leave and move on. Always love your skin. Your body and skin is the biggest blessing of Allah. If they don't like you, it's OK! You love yourself. Allah has created you with great effort and with a purpose. So, thank him often and be grateful. Your modesty is your jewellery. Adorn it carefully. There are so many ways to sell it and there might be people wait...