Ms. Typewriter

I always grew up seeing him working hard to keep us happy. Every single wish of me was fulfilled by him happily. It took me years to recognise that behind every wish of mine there was unfulfilled wish of his. I wanted you to be proud of us.  You never treated us like we were your weakness. You always taught us that girls need to be strong and stand up for themselves if its wrong. No one could have treated us better than you did! Behind every degree of mine is your sweat which I am grateful for my entire life. Even if I work for lifetime , I may not be able to repay for the things which you have done for us. People tried to break you by always saying -" Oh! You don't have a son! Who will stand by you at old age?" But you always answered them bravely -" I don't need a son when I have daughters!" I never saw you crying. But on the day of my wedding you cried harder. It broke me to see you like that. Did you fall weak? Or was it because of the fear t...

Disclaimer before you read:  These are purely my thoughts and its not necessary that you agree with me too. :)  I am elder daughter to my parents and I will not lie, I have enjoyed being it. They have given me more love and care. Apart from that there are many disadvantages of being an elder child. Let's look into that:  1) You will have to sacrifice your dreams and desires according to your parents wish , be it career or your life. I always wanted to be a doctor. When the time came I had to change my plan, not because my parents forced me, but I knew they couldn't afford it. I knew my dad would have to work more if I opted for medical sciences which I didn't want. 2) You will be pressurized by friends and family to get married early since you are the road block for your siblings. People made my life living hell. Whenever I had to attend a function they bombarded me with like a thousand questions which I didn't want to answer. 3) You will have to think thous...

As you turn one, I would like to give you some pieces of advice. I know you are too small to understand or even read this. But someday, when you grow up, I want to show you this and make sure you become a strong individual and live your life to fullest. Always remember, you will always be judged for how you are. Don't ever change yourself to please someone and keep any relationship going. If someone loves you truly, they will stay no matter how you are. It's OK to make mistakes. Don't stress over it. You grow from your mistakes. You learn from your mistakes. You become wise from your mistakes. Learn, leave and move on. Always love your skin. Your body and skin is the biggest blessing of Allah. If they don't like you, it's OK! You love yourself. Allah has created you with great effort and with a purpose. So, thank him often and be grateful. Your modesty is your jewellery. Adorn it carefully. There are so many ways to sell it and there might be people wait...

Modern world is nothing but mere illusion. People are striving hard to be perfect.They hide their imperfections and mask their originality. Thus, leaving them distressed and depressed.  Its OK to be NOT OK, Its OK to cry for silly reasons, Its OK to feel worthless, Its OK to feel demotivated, Its OK to feel empty even when you have everything, Its OK to be alone and happy with yourselves, Its OK to hide inside your own cocoon, Its OK to disappoint people, Its OK to be flawed. Why do you need to give a explanation for being the best version of 'YOU'?  YOU are unique, YOU are perfect the way you are, YOU cannot keep everyone happy, YOU cannot be in everybody's good books. Remember, your mental health is always your responsibility. If you keep feeling bad for their words and actions, eventually you are going to fall into the pit. They are not going to lose anything. Instead, they will be happy seeing you in sorrow.  Let's normalise and respect each one. We neve...

' Emotional abuse is as harmful as physical abuse." I never knew that someday I would be writing on this topic. But, Allah's plans are different.  I have seen many people ,specially woman going through emotional abuse. They keep quiet and suffer. They keep such an abusive relationship going.  Why do they do that? The answer is They are scared! They are scared of being judged. They are scared of being alone. They are scared because their parents would not be allowed to live a normal life. They are scared because their siblings would suffer. They are scared because they wouldn't be accepted in this society. They are scared because their children will be labelled with names. But the truth is if you are quiet when being abused, you are not going to gain anything. You are just giving them the chance to step over you and by losing your self worth. While the abuser keeps enjoying his life. He doesn't lose a penny.  At some point of my life, I was taunted for e...

I have seen many women suffer. They are going through mental trauma, physical pain and much more. What's more worse is people treating them like everything is a woman's fault. If she has gone through a divorce, then its her fault because she didn't adjust to him and his family. If she is unmarried then again its her fault because she isn't a marriage material according to the boy's side. If she is without a child  then her life is living hell. Its her fault by 'default'.  If she is a working woman then its her fault because instead of looking after her children she is all behind her career. We live in a era where women are reaching heights. But at the same time woman aren't treated well. Let's understand each other. Its very sad that  when a woman is suffering and its often another woman who is criticising her and hurting her. If you cannot share somebody's sorrow, please don't be a reason for their sorrow. The world would have be...

My life completely changed when I saw those two pink lines. He was equally elated. The first thing people started asking me was -" Do you want a girl or a boy baby?" Honestly I didn't want a girl and I had my own reasons for that. I didn't want her to be a show piece whom people would judge. I didn't want her to be a epitome of patience and allow anyone to oppress her. I didn't want her to be a entertainer in the name of marriage. I didn't want her to live her life according to others wish. I didn't want her to cry alone and suffer just because Allah made her different. I didn't want her to be like me!  But Allah had other plans. He blessed me with a girl. The day I saw her, I started crying, I didn't know whether it was out of joy or sadness. I cried my heart out. She was so tiny and the nurse said she was just like me! A relationship between a mother and a child is the purest one on the earth. I started falling in love with her ev...